It's Not Okay - Andi Dorfman

It's Not Okay

By Andi Dorfman

  • Release Date: 2016-05-17
  • Genre: Biographies & Memoirs
Score: 4.5
From 1,619 Ratings


Discover the New York Times bestselling book that Bachelor fans—and even Bachelor stars—can’t stop talking about! Beloved fan favorite Andi Dorfman tells the unvarnished truth about her engagement, her public breakup, and why looking for love on television is no paradise.

Millions of people tuned in to see Bachelorette star Andi Dorfman get engaged to her chosen suitor. But when the cameras turned off and the dust (or rose petals) had settled, Andi realized she was engaged to a man she’d known for barely two months. And as they endeavored to return to normal life, they discovered that happily ever after wasn’t as easy as it looked. In her own words, Andi delivers “plenty of surprise (and some disturbing) details” (Cosmopolitan) as she tells the whole truth about her entry into the exclusive Bachelor family, her experience on the show, and finally, what happened to make it all fall apart.

But this is much more than the diary of a very public breakup—Andi divulges her story along with some no-nonsense, straight-talking advice to other women dealing with their own romantic issues. In It’s Not Okay, Andi is the best friend we all wish we had, telling us the good, the bad, and the ugly to inspire us to always be true to ourselves and remember breakups may be hard, but it’s always going to be okay.


  • At least you read a NY Times Bestseller? :/

    By callmeGEORGIE
    Going to be honest here, I really just read the book because I was curious to know what exactly happened between the two of them. It’s my guilty pleasure, it’s embarrassing, I will not speak of it again. I was hoping that in doing so however, I would get to feel like I understood more of who Andi really was. I don’t. At all. This book is trying WAY too hard to be Sex & The City. I’m cringing. So much of the phrasing of this book literally came straight from Carrie’s mouth on the HBO show. “I can’t help but wonder”...who is the real Andi Dorfman anyway? Girl, just BE YOU. You are educated, articulate, gorgeous, witty, and so much more. This book does nothing for all the wonderful qualities that you possess. So bummed!
  • Hit all my feels

    This book is perfect for anyone who is currently or has ever been through heartbreak. Andi was so honest and raw. Very excited to see what she will continue to do. Such a relatable book.
  • Nothing but love

    By Allison Case
    So raw and natural. Love her even more than before if that’s possible.
  • Loved!

    By Cstrickel
    I really enjoyed this book, I couldn’t put it down!
  • Great!

    By bbeall77
    Great book
  • Really?!?

    By 👍🏻😎😏Nick😏😎👍🏻
    I seriously cannot believe this… lithe sole reason she REALLY went on The Bachelor was to gain fame. That’s why she was on in the other season she was in, when she came to the door to talk and give ‘good advice’ to the guy — she really didn’t want to say all that, she just wanted her face and name in the limelight again. And she knows she can’t do it any other way: she sure as heck isn’t pretty enough, she isn’t smart enough, she doesn’t have any talent — she’s a nobody, with no life. And now that she’s no longer being seen, she claims to have written a book. 🙄 All she really is, aside from trailer trash, is nothing more than a wannabe fraud, a ‘cleaner’ version (if there really is such a thing) of the kar-trash-ian cult!! Yuck!!
  • Was the intention of this book to get us all to hate her?

    By Loveyouchristina!
    Andi was one of my favorite bachelorettes when she was on Juan Pablo's season. I thought she was so smart and funny. This book just made her appear extremely entitled, mean, and delusional. I don't know who told her the definition of what feminism is, but it isn't to degrade men. It also isn't bragging about spending your father's money to feel "empowered". Andi is almost 30 years old but this book felt like it was written by a bitter, spoiled teenager. As a former fan, I'm really disappointing.
  • Empowering, regardless of a current break up or not!

    By EllieLivvy
    I appreciate Andi's authenticity and transparency! I laughed, I cried, but mostly I learned a lot from her experience. This book is empowering to any female, currently processing the end of relationship or not!
  • Love it!!

    By db1030
    Read this book in a day! Loved it so much. Such raw true emotion! We love you Andi!
  • It's not ok

    By Autumndawn34
    I loved Andi on the show. And I love the show. In my phone the book was 729 pages long. That was about 500 pages too long. It's as if she weighting to her diary. And it just goes on and on about how sad she is and every emotions she went threw on every page. It got real old real quick. It was a waist of $12. I didn't even finish it it was that bad.